Real Men Can Read Women Like A Book!

Women’s Infidelity - The Sure Signs

2011-03-28T00:14:00.005+11:00

If there is something a man cannot overcome in a relationship its humiliation. And indeed, why should he?

This is a message to announce that I am finally offering a public service to help men catch their cheating wife/girlfriend red handed.

I can no linger sit idly by and be indifferent to the cries of my clients and friends who are having their lives shredded by the humiliation of a cheating partner.

What was my tipping point? A client discovered that his 10 Yr old twins were not his. Imagine the anguish. The humiliation!

And get this, in the past two months I’ve already helped 7 men catch their wives red handed!

Surveys show that most men can go through a divorce or even remain apparently happily married and never know their wife was sleeping with another man, and sometimes men.
The existence of any four of these signs means you have some cause for profound concern.

1. She has stories about cheating on a previous partner.
2. She cheated on someone else to be with you.
3. She brags about cheating.
4. She brags about being too smart to be caught.
5. She says you are boring.
6. She refuses to wear panties/underwear.
7. She has a boob job.
8. She has tattoos or body piercings underneath her clothes.
9. She uncharacteristically daydreams while playing with her hair for long periods of time.
10. She is obsessive about wearing form fitting clothes.
11. She flirts with other men.
12. She speaks with admiration about specific men at work.
13. She is repetitively disrespectful to you in private and public.
14. She leaves the room to take calls.
15. She hangs up on calls before answering the call.
16. She unfavorably compares you to other men.
17. She starts shaving body parts she never used to shave before.
18. She is shy about allowing you to see her nude.
19. She dresses sexually but shows no interest in sex with you.
20. She protests you going to the doctors alone with your children.
21. She is coming home late at night or not at all.
22. She packs toiletries when she goes out.
23. She is non-committal in telling you where she is going.
24. She is non-committal in telling you when she will be home.
25. She has great interest in knowing when you will be leaving town.
26. She goes to nightclubs and bars without you.
27. She dresses seductively everywhere she goes.
28. She smiles and laughs with other men but not with you.
29. She opens a new bank account.
30. She withdraws lots of cash and won’t say where it’s going.
31. She has no interest in talking about the future with you.
32. She asks to separate from you.
33. Other women that know her will not allow her near their husbands.
34. Drama with other men seems to follow her in every job.
35. She refuses to introduce you to her male or female friends.
36. You have a nagging feeling that something is terribly off.
37. She makes random speeches about how she would never cheat.
38. She does and says things to take away your power as a man.
39. She disrespects and belittles all men.
40. Your relationship is ALL about filling her needs.
41. Reminisces about previous sexual experiences.
42. Her self esteem is based on the approval of all men, not just one.
43. She has close emotional ties with other men.
44. Too much time at the gym.
45. She tells you not to ‘come’ inside her before a trip.
46. She is secretive and defensive.
47. She gets angry over the smallest of things.
48. Your gut tells you she is not loyal.
49. She is critical of women who are loyal to their man.
50. The passenger seat in the car is consistently changed.
51. Strange hairs on her clothing or in her car.
52. She always seems to have random scratches and bruises.
53. Sex toys show up that you have never known about.
54. Shuts the computer down when you walk in the room.
55. Lingerie shows up that you’ve never seen before.
56. She refuses to linger or cuddle after sex.
57. She does not allow you to get to know her.
58. She thinks nothing of humiliating you.
59. She is seduced by the forbidden and wrong in life.

None of these signs are proof by itself. That’s where I come in. I’ll give help you get the proof you need.

(For the full 411 of how women think and operate when cheating consider my latest book REAL MEN CAN READ WOMEN LIKE A BOOK @ http://thefreedomacademy.com/this-book-is-for-men-only. Read the details on how to profile the ‘huntress’ cheater.)

My methods to help you know if you are being cheated on are extremely subtle, non-confrontational and indeed, the woman in your life need never know that you were suspicious or that I was involved. You won’t even need to leave your house.

In the end, if it is discovered that she is a cheat it will seem to her that she has been caught by coincidence, being none the wiser of what has been happening behind the scenes.

All the work we’ll do together is by phone/text/email and there are no costly or unnecessary private investigators required.

Within 30 days, you could know if your wife/girlfriend is loyal or if she is a cheat.

What is the cost of not knowing the truth?

For one of my clients the cost was raising some other man’s kids while believing they were his for 10 years!

If you are interested in this service for yourself or a friend, please send an email at tfacademy@gmail.com.

I am limited in how many men I can help so please reserve your spot asap.

In the meantime, register for my twitter account http://twitter.com/eadvisor to get genius insights.

Thank you for your interest in this matter.

Corey Donaldson
www.TheFreedomAcademy.com
COPYRIGHT 2011 © Corey Donaldson

PART TWO - The End Of Men....

2010-06-30T19:12:00.002+10:00

PART TWO

A response to the July/August 2010 issue of The Atlantic’s flagship article, approved by the editor COWARD James Bennet:

THE END OF MEN, HOW WOMEN ARE TAKING CONTROL – OF EVERYTHING

I love and adore, but I reject unintelligent man-bashing arguments and will do so in my answer to The Atlantic with reason and social concern for accuracy and purity in reporting. And get this, I’ll do what I’m about to do without assigning blame to women for any difficulties that modern men may be facing, nor will I inspire men to be victims, which is a strategy recruited by so many who do all they can to keep oppression alive in their psyche.

If some women feel oppressed they blame men, if some women are successful they blame the downfall of men, and many cowardly men go along with it like a prison bitch. Yes James, I’m talking to you, so please pay attention. As this trio in The Atlantic have asserted, no matter what the issue, success or failure, it always comes gift wrapped with some mindless crusade to afflict men with crime and punishment, usually dispensed by the strategically placed anger of women.

Anger from women to get their way is an ancient strategy still in force today because of its continued results upon men who do not know how to respond to it. And yet paradoxically, while women still employ anger to get their way with men, they do not respect men that do not stand right back up to them. Actually, anger and bullying is a way that women use to test if a man is a real man, to see if his manhood is authentic, but sadly, most men fail at this test. But, men are accountable for this result, not women.

I wonder if this is the agenda behind The Atlantic’s mindless tirade, to test and see if there are men that will stand up to the unintelligence of ill found ‘poor me’ female aggression? If it is, consider this response a standing up to the bully in the playground.

The editor and writers of this story are shameless social criminals with malice aforethought to undermine, devalue, blame, reject, persecute and ridicule men and rape manhood of its authentic power.

The article, sidebar and the editor’s intro are all written by impersonal journalists focused on the cleverness of their words and the structure of their paragraphs, as opposed to involved participants who have at least some experience in win/win scenarios for that which they write.

The trio loosely gather information with many unsubstantiated conclusions taking wild stabs at the dark to reach for evidence and facts that don’t exist to support some version of a feminist war where women can only ascend in life if men are doing badly, never mind the idea that there are both men and women doing well in their own right.

Imagine if a man claimed that his success was the result of oppressing women? But this is what this article does, but in the opposite direction. It’s so high school, so ridiculous and there’s such a low level of authentic editorial oversight that the entire magazines credibility must be called into question in its supposed position as a respected social commentary medium.

It’s very simply a collection of words haphazardly pasted together with reckless abandon for broad social congruency, that one might be forgiven for asking if this entire magazine is making a stone faced attempt at satire, which has fallen on its face against the rise of intuitive and spontaneous heckling from this member of the audience.

Now to the article itself…

Imagine if a story featured in a major magazine posed the question in bold lettering: ARE MOTHERS NECESSARY? There would be widespread outcry, although half of it would be cooked in political correctness. But get this; this is exactly what is posed in the magazine, except the question in the big bold rude lettering is: ARE FATHERS NECESSARY?

I had to put the magazine down, stand up and walk away just at the sight of that abominable question that almost involuntarily filled the whites of my eyes with flowing blood like bending roads on a map. I knew then I had to respond, but we’ll get to that in a moment, because as it turns out that question was the basis of a side piece outside of the flow of the flagship article, but perhaps even more fiendish in its predictable answer.

I knew I’d have a hard time knowing where to start in writing my reply to this shambles of a contribution to human devolutionary ideas, I just knew I had to write something and see where it went.

But to thumb in more salt to the blistering wound, this issue of The Atlantic has the credibility annihilating pretentiousness of branding this issue THE IDEAS ISSUE, WITH THE 14 ¾ MOST POWERFUL IDEAS OF THE YEAR. I fully expect to see a story somewhere else in the magazine declaring that the world really is flat after all, but not along the same themes as Thomas L. Friedman’s.

So here I go making selections from these three fools and my commentary for each one.

On Saturday June 19th 2010 on my blog, I specifically condemned the words of introduction provided by the apparent editor James Bennet, so I won’t spend even more energy by going over that again. But suffice it to say, this man is wholly responsible and accountable for all the words in this magazine, and as such it is reasonable and equitable that he be thoughtfully declared as a COWARD. Although he is much more than this, certainly he is not less.

One cannot help but wonder if James has powerful friends that have inserted him into his current position that think much more of him that what is intellectually available to him. Such charity only diminishes these friends, calling their own intelligence into obvious question.

I’m still coming to terms that I am actually writing this response. I’ve never done anything like this before, but I am strangely emboldened, and yet if you ask anyone that knows me, they would read this and wonder why I have waited so long to get involved.

Though I may be criticized that my own writing is imperfect, I accept that. But I won’t accept any attempts to dismiss my positions because I am right winged, religious, chauvinist or in some other way not a gentleman, for no such accusations will stick.

PART THREE IS COMING...

THE END OF MEN, HOW WOMEN ARE TAKING CONTROL – OF EVERYTHING?

2010-06-23T15:07:00.004+10:00

A response to the July/August 2010 issue of The Atlantic’s flagship article, approved by the editor COWARD James Bennet:

THE END OF MEN, HOW WOMEN ARE TAKING CONTROL – OF EVERYTHING

Part One -

“How do you write women so well?

I think of a man, and I take away reason and accountability”.

So goes the lines from the movie As Good As It Gets, the final line delivered flawlessly by Jack Nicolson who is asked about his writing by a receptionist at his publisher’s office.

Why do you think Jack Nicolson’s words get both a laugh and furrowed brow?
Because largely, few men will disagree with this, but even fewer will say it out loud.

Seriously, how many women do you know that have claimed responsibility for bad behavior, owned up to it, apologized, and asked for forgiveness, even in the face of obvious misconduct?

And yes, I know many men who are accountable for bad behavior, make amends and move forward, including brothers, clients, and friends and get this; there are even stories and legends of men in the world taking accountability, which may be fiction to the contributors of this Atlantic issue. In fact, it’s part of what I do in my work assisting men while in the middle of relationship disasters, to coach them on what accountability looks like.

In the July/August issue of The Atlantic, every attempt is made to make men unaccountable for their own social status by inflicting upon men the infamous female attribute of unaccountability.

Sorry ladies, men will not blame you if they experience demise, as some of you do to men. Men will accept accountability for their own failure and success and will not go to pathetic attempts to claim oppression or take a bath in the stinging iced waters of victimhood. Proudly, we men reserve the right to be answerable for our own results. Imagine that?

Actually, if I notice the subtext in this story, it get’s my attention with a terrible insult towards women, that woman can only be successful and rise of to the top at the expense of men. Really? Are you sure you really want to be saying that? You’re actually saying that women cannot be successful based on merit, that it must happen in Hitler’s jungle where the weak must be mowed down by the strong. It’s no wonder The Atlantic makes an enemy of men in their adversarial pursuits, but it’s just not necessary.

Of the women I know who have been successful in their fields, it has not been because they oppressed men, it’s been because they were just damn good at what they did, better in some cases than both other women and other men, men had nothing to do with it one way or the other. Merit triumphs, not the scapegoat downfall of a gender. For this reason, I see no way, none at all in which women will even slightly benefit or be genuinely empowered by the condescension of this insulting article to women, not just men.

The flagship article of the magazine is titled THE END OF MEN, HOW WOMEN ARE TAKING CONTROL – OF EVERYTHING. Generalizations hit you like a punch in the face just by the selection of that grade school headline. But you are set up by this headline by the sour and distasteful presentation that is to come, like the feeling of vomit making its way up the throat.

It is written by the staggeringly pious and loosely investigated positions presented by Hanna Rosin, the lesser of the offenders, with the blessing of the male apologist editor James Bennet, and the devolved and hateful sidebar by Pamela Paul who tries terribly to temper her contempt for all men, gay and straight combined.

Women like this are becoming the very thing they despise, chauvinistic, but don’t see it because of the license they take in claiming to be the oppressed, and so they oppress. It stinks of entitled victimhood. Paul is a shame and a stain on the many women who have succeeded on their own terms and deserve respect and homage for that and that alone, not because they are women.

This story represents a trio of treacherous points of view calculated to castrate, depower and demonize every man that either reads it or doesn’t read it as they conspire to collapse an equally integral and priceless contribution to human society along with women, men. There is an ancient energy of the biblical Delilah infused throughout the entire magazine because of this trio’s objective to rob men and manhood of their authentic power and natural place as a key contributor to the human experience.

I intend to discipline these three stooges of Bennet, Rosin and Paul with more than just a “NUYK! NYUK! NYUK!”

Advertisers in this issue have now been blemished with their collaboration with these social criminals and as such should be boycotted.

Let me be clear about something to avoid confusion. I love women, there are many women in my life that...

Part two coming soon...

Atlantic Monthly's Editor James Bennet Sold Men Out!

2010-06-19T16:10:00.005+10:00

I could taste the vomit in my mouth.

With the image of a limp dick on the cover, the July/August 2010 issue of The Atlantic Monthly is an assault on Manhood from the get go. The cover says 'THE END OF MEN, HOW WOMEN ARE TAKING CONTROL OF EVERYTHING.'

At first I was just curious, but first came the editors introduction to the magazine which reads like the reflected words of a seasoned and experienced female professional, speaking to her own experience in relationship to men.

The intent of the intro to the mag was to provide prelude for the flagship article coming later in the magazine as advertised on the cover.

But a revolting thing happened. After reading the introduction I realised this is not a woman writing this, it's actually a man, you know, because James Bennet is a man's name so I feel safe in my bet.

This is a man who has sold out his manhood. But I venture to say, this was not his first time.

I have not read the flagship article yet because I have been stopped in my tracks by the clumsiness and wimpy correctness of the introductions editor. And though I never usually make social commentary on what I see in the media, on this occasion I can no longer resist this sweet bait.

Okay James, you've pulled me out of obscurity and into the light. Is it deliberate?

Bennet suggests that the success of women in the world is causing 'whiplash in men'.

Really Bennet? Must one sex be whiplashed at the expense of the other to explain success? Are there not both men and women experiencing success? Why must one lose and the other win? What is your objection to noticing win/win scenarios in the workplace?

Moreover, is change itself the tool that measures victory or defeat, or does it just reflect what it is, change?

The human obsession with the US versus THEM fight is so yesterday and so tiring, I'm actually fatigued writing this sentence.

Believe me James, if men are being whiplashed it has nothing whatever to do with women. Men are their own worst enemy by not knowing what it is to be a real man, independent of women. You're giving women misplaced credit as if you are trying to award them for the pussification and downfall of men.

Don't you know this yet James? All kingdoms fall from within.

James asks the questions in his intro, 'Are we men really becoming so pathetic?
Are there no dignified male role models left?'

Questions like this, which have been plucked from it's authors own journals, feed on a weak mans desire for an example of a real man outside of himself, instead of being that man.

And yes, you, yes you are pathetic as a man in your classic male apologetic position. I would not be surprised to learn if you got permission from several women to write what you wrote in your quest to 'walk the line' of maintaining female approval, instead of taking a position that reflected male accountability and independence.

In summary James, your introduction to the magazines lead article is a dispirited reflection on the limp condition of most men in the United States, men who don't know who they are, men that don't know that what women really want from men is for men to be stand up men, which includes knowing how to stand up to and for woman with love and power when the situation calls for it.

And now, I repair to the article itself...gulp.

(A full rip-roaring response to the entire article is coming soon)

The Self Saboteur

2010-06-11T10:31:00.003+10:00

I had a friend that asked me to comment on a situation he was in with another woman at work. You can see his story at:

http://markymarksthoughts.blogspot.com/2010/04/quandary-work-this-week.html;

Here is my response:

Hey Mark,

I am reading your story about Maria.

I few observations if I may?

I can see very clearly you want to be loved, you're just confussed about the process.

Consider the possibility that you over think situations too much, killing any chances you have before it begins.

Consider online dating and use my letter on pages 5-7, it works!

Make changes to your schedule, thereby making yourself available to create openness in your heart and schedule for something to happen.

Be open to dating single Mum's. In my experience as a whole, they have to grow up faster, mature faster and have to work harder to be a good catch. As you get older, eliminating single Mums eliminates almost everyone. There are many wonderful single Mum's.

Don't set hard rules for what you will or will not do. Be open minded about new possibilities and see how you feel on a case by case basis.

'Look before you leap'? No. Too much caution makes it look like you are expecting a terrible experience, and so that's what you get. Leap first I say, risk, throw caution to the wind. Love is not a safe bet and so it can not be approached with fear or that is what you will get back. In matters of love, one must be open to the possibility of being hurt and experiencing love. You cannot open one door while being closed to the other. Either both are opened or both are closed, just like saloon doors.

Yes, married women are off limits absolutely, not because the bible says so, but for the sake of honor itself. Additionally to that, if a married women fools around with you and you end up with her you will have no reason to be surprised when she cheats on you.

Don't discount women who have been divorced. Divorce is a great teacher. Consider asking a woman you are thinking about dating what she learned from her divorce and see where it goes. You just may learn that she is a wonderful woman who has matured and developed her character because of her divorce.

Please consider reading page 22 in my book (REAL MEN CAN READ WOMEN LIKE A BOOK!) to learn what all women want, whether they are divorced or not. Knowing this will help you to connect with a new woman you meet.

There is no reasonable way to determine if a woman is interested in you because she smiles at you. It's just a smile, she smiles at everyone. It's not a smile that is exclusive for you, it's just part of her personality.

You wrote, 'When combining that with the risks of dating someone at work, I won't make a move unless I could prove in a court of law that the woman was interested in me, and do so beyond a reasonable doubt. If I have any question, then it's a no-go decision for me. I don't let my feelings get in the way; it's just a cold, hard decision I made long ago, one that I've stuck to when faced with this before.'
May I suggest to you that such a cold a calculating point of view is self sabotaging. Women are not attracted to coldness, and I guarantee you that all women can feel this aspect of you before you even say a word.

By sabotaging relationships before they happen you feel good about proving yourself right, but how right can you really be in chasing love away before the seed has been sown. People fall in love with each other, it's a process of falling, a process of attraction, but you're choking off the falling part, that's why love has evaded you.

When you shut off your feelings and cut of the possibility to feel, how can you experience love? Love is a feeling to give and receive. Putting your feelings on ice will guarantee lifelong loneliness and misery.

Your feelings are what make you unique, they make you loving and lovable. Turning your heart into stone will not give you any positive results.

Get back to your feelings, let them guide you on a case by case basis and throw out all your rules that limit your options.

Based on what I have read so far these are my sincere feelings that I believe will serve your interests most authentically.

Hope this helped.

Profiling Women Is Now So Easy A Man Can Do It!

2010-06-11T03:51:00.002+10:00

Profiling Women Is Now So Easy A Man Can Do It!

You’ve heard of FBI Profilers, now comes the profiler of man-eating women who advises men on how to handle aggressive women. In the process, men will discover their manhood, mostly for the first time in their entire lives.

Corey Donaldson is The Emergency Action Advisor because of his work helping men to create clarity during relationship disasters. Corey has just released the very ambitious book where he delivers exactly what the title suggests; REAL MEN CAN READ WOMEN LIKE A BOOK!

In your interview with Corey, consider asking…

What is the definitive answer to what women really want from men?

Page 22

What are the attitudes and behaviors that classify the two types of all women?

Pages 19-22 and 163-175

What’s the power shift happening between men and women that could leave women very lonely?

Pages 70-75 and 223-224

What is it that men fear so much that it will cause them to go for years without sex?

Pages 78-93 and 270-271

How can the beauty of women be used as a weapon against men?

Pages 64-70

What is the number one male behavior that women most repulsed by?

Page 60

Why does defining manhood matter now more than ever?

Pages 25-30

What are the trigger words to be able to read women like a book?

Page 84-93

What do strippers know about men that wives and girlfriends do not?

Pages 63-64

What is the true definition of flirting and why does it ruin relationships?

Pages 119-121 and 209-212

Why is that men cannot read women like a book until they can read themselves like a book?

Provided in the interview

How do women profile each other to warn their male friends about other females?

Provided in the interview

If it’s not money or status, what is the ultimate prize that all man-eaters hunt for?

Pages 166-183

What is the final definition of love?

Pages 256-257

How do women provide advance notice that they will hurt a man before it happens?

Pages 216-217

Bonus questions:

What is the definition of a real woman?

Page 14

What is this ‘famous’ letter you wrote that all women respond to online?

Pages 6-7

How do affairs happen?

Pages 123-125

What is the ONE VALUE that will make a difference to all relationships?

Pages 260-261

Contact: Please contact Corey at TFAcademy@gmail.com. For more details, please visit www.TheFreedomAcademy.com.

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Women Don’t Respect Men That Can’t Stand Up To Them!

2010-05-23T08:21:00.002+10:00

Women Don’t Respect Men That Can’t Stand Up To Them!
(Even If They Love Their Man!)

Hey Mate,

You already know me, so let’s cut to the chase.

I know what women want and I’m going to show you how to give it to them!

Ask any woman if she can respect her man if he cannot stand up to her and the answer will always be - NO! She may love him but she will not respect him!

Most women don’t even know this about themselves!

A woman needs the man she loves to be a real man on his own, a man who is self aware and shows leadership.

And by the way, men without purpose have a woman that does not trust him. See how to get purpose to your life on pages 242-248.

Discover why now more than ever is the right time to become a REAL MAN on pages 22-26.

Discover how women want to be stood up to by men on pages 56-59 and 284-325.

But first, you should know about the two types of women that all men must know about before their manhood is sucked dry by unknowingly being with the wrong woman on pages 157-170. On these pages, I’ll also show you the best TV shows and a movie that all men must watch to demonstrate the existence of these two types of women. Note – one type of woman is the envy of all men, while the other kills the personal power of a man, leaving him as a lifeless pulp on the ground.

In fact, I regret to tell you that I know of a man who recently hung himself because he was with this type of man-eater.

But, I hear you ask, what happens when you stand up to your woman with love and
power and she fights back even harder? Check out the answer on pages 93-101 and the last two lines from page 194 through to 201.

And then, if you want the final definition of a REAL WOMAN, check out page 14.
Everything I am sharing with you is about how to love a woman in an inspiring way by owning who you are first.

You’ll find all these recommended pages in my recently overhauled book that I released this week titled: REAL MEN CAN READ WOMEN LIKE A BOOK!

Click on this link: http://thefreedomacademy.com/this-book-is-for-men-only

I look forward to serving you.

Corey Donaldson
The Emergency Action Advisor
Creating Clarity During Relationship Disasters

PS Why do you think there are more women that are getting this book than men?

Twitter: http://twitter.com/EAdvisor
Email: TFAcademy@gmail.com
Website: www.TheFreedomAcademy.com

CONFESSIONS OF A REFORMING ANGRY WOMAN AND HER MAN

2010-01-29T15:55:00.003+11:00

I recently finished a Q&A interview between a very angry reforming woman and her man. You can download it for free at www.TheFreedomAcademy.com.

It's very interesting reading, considering the depth of their pain and the growth of their progress and solutions after all they have been through.

I welcome your comments after you have read it.

Corey Donaldson

The Increasing Anger Of Women?????

2010-01-10T18:17:00.001+11:00

Why are many women becoming increasingly angry towards their own good man and all men without good cause?

I'm very interested in your thoughts?

New Manhood Book Free To All....

2009-10-06T06:48:00.003+11:00

The title of this blog has changed titles a number of times. I change it as I grow and learn about who I am, and as I get in touch with what is wanted from me.

I recently started to write a new book, a book that is ambitious in it's scope, a book that is going to stretch what I know and what I think I know.

The title of the book is: REAL MEN CAN READ A WOMAN LIKE A BOOK! Defining Manhood In The Wake Of Relationship Disasters.

This is a book that must be written. To some extent I am writing this book because I want to know what the title promises, all men want to know what the title promises. On top of that, I am humbled and excited to define what it is to be a man in these modern times.

Up front I know that part of the journey of writing this book will be defining what a REAL MAN is not. As men, it is by getting clear first on what the opposite of a real man is that we are able to see clearly what a real man actually is.

As of this moment I am about 40 pages into the book and I have about 10 pages of random notes that need order. But I already know that something special is happening with the words that are being written, something sacred is happening here. In my consulting practice I am able to redeem the lives of men, I know this book will be a natural extension of this. I feel called to write this book, as if there are many men I don't even know that need this book to be written in order to be able to move forward with their lives and make sense of their relationships.

Before the book is officially launched I'd like to give many copies away. If you send me an email telling me you'd like a free copy when it comes out then please do so at Corey@TheFreedomAcademy.com

If you have any ideas or thoughts on what it takes to be a real man, or on how to read women like a book, please post your thoughts here.

Thank you.

Life Purpose

2009-09-15T06:32:00.000+10:00

There’s this interesting thing about what people want, and it may seem counter intuitive, but to anyone who has been with a partner who is unfulfilled in their life’s work and knows there is unfinished life business to identify, this little nugget will finally put a spotlight on a mysterious condition. To any person who has made their partner suffer through their identity crisis, here’s some clarity for you on what’s really going on. Men want purpose more than they want a woman and women want purpose more than they want a man. The purpose of one’s life cannot be a relationship exclusively, unless the relationship gives expression to ones purpose, like children
Broader purpose is required by most people; relationships can facilitate that purpose, but not be that purpose.

Many people cannot be at rest and fully surrender to a relationship when they are not conscious of and in ownership of unique purpose for being alive. So my point here is that sometimes a series of relationship issues can be traced back to a problem with living and identifying ones purpose for being alive. That’s why I spend so much time on creating purpose with my clients.

Who wants $25,000?

2009-08-26T06:38:00.002+10:00

If you have a great story about your relationship then I want to be inspired by you.

I am going to pay 25k for the very best relationship story in two catagories.

Please see my website for the details: www.TheFreedomAcademy.com

Good Luck!

Divorce Is Not The Enemy Of Marriage!

2009-07-10T05:08:00.002+10:00

Divorce Is Not The Enemy Of Marriage, Bad Behavior Is!

Time magazine recently released an article discussing the apparant evils of divorce. The article recounted the ill-effects of divorce upon families, children and even single Mom's.

But this writer finds neglect and oversight in the Time article, in addition to all those who write negatively of divorce.

Divorce is the final act; to say nothing of the events that lead to divorce is a major shortfall in any divorce discussion.

Without exception, every one of my clients who have chosen divorce have done so because of thier partners indifference towards them, or otherwise bad behavior that would make anyones existence intolerable.

When you are married to a person who is comfortable embarrassing you, has sex with other people, refuses to love you, is passive towards you, is numb towards you, is tranquilized against feelings, then something must be done.

The Declaration Of Independance was not born out of agreeable circumstances and mateship, but rather it was born of neglect, overbearance, persecution, abuse, tyranny and oppression; The very reasons used by many to explain their divorce. To criticize divorce while turning a blind eye to the behavior that leads to divorce is to miss the facts entirely.

And that's that.

Hope!

2009-07-09T02:16:00.000+10:00

After a certain point of effort and labor, there only remains hope, but like the shifting moods of the sea, hope can be a loyal friend or a cruel tyrant.

Love

2009-07-07T03:56:00.002+10:00

As a man that loves being in love and everything great that goes along with that, my assignment sometimes becomes all the more difficult when I am advising men and women in sore marriages.

It's hard for me to not get emotionally involved sometimes becasue the very thing within me that allows me to give a quick diagnosis of peoples relationships is the same part of me that actually feels their pain. Sometimes I can actually feel what my clients are feeling in their moment of anguish, as if I am going through it myself.

But the reason I do what I do is because after all the issues are dealt with, there is almost always a resurrection of love, a return to eden.

Those testimonial letters I get humble me, make me tear up and remind me that the important work I am doing is making a difference.

So I just want to thank my clients (you know who you all are) for trusting me enough to show you what real love is. It's my personal honor to serve you all.

Your Spouse Is Just Not That Into You!

2009-07-03T09:41:00.003+10:00

I've just changed the name of this blog because most of the emails I get from the fans of my book (TheFreedomAcademy.com) all revolve around reading signs they're getting from thier spouse/partner.

The truth is, there are many uncomplicated signs that your lover is just not into you. There's no real mystery to solve. It's always pretty clear if your lover is into you or not.

For example, your spouse is just not that into you if:

They are doing you a favor when they have sex with you!
They voluntarily spend lots of time away from you!
They are not nice to you!
They think nothing of embarassing you!
You are the permanent second choice in everything they do!
You are constantly undermined in front of your own children!
You have to keep making excuses for the way your spouse treats you!
You are still waiting for your spouse to change!
Your spouse hits you!
Your spouse yells at you!
Your spouse is abusive!
Your spouse needs to flirt with others all the time!
Your spouse is having sex with someone else!
Your spouse is controlling you!
Your spouse doesn't like you!
Your spouse is not transparent in their activities and habits!
Your spouse wants a divorce!
Your spouse uses you to satisfy their demands!
Your spouse gets angry if you disagree with them!

And the list goes on...

What do you think about these signs? What is your experience?

Part 2 - Get divorced to protect the kids?

2008-12-23T09:54:00.001+11:00

In one of the responses to the recent question a man wrote, “But the question at hand is can children be spared from the evil of divorce in the process of protecting them?”

I find this question to be loaded with a disappointing volume of unrighteous judgment. Calling divorce ‘evil’ is an astonishing belief that reveals a dogmatic zeal for insisting on being ‘right’. I would suspect that this man must always be ‘right’ in what he says, instantly dismissing an opposing view as ‘evil’ so that he can claim to have God on his side, while all others are merchants of Satan.

As a man that chose divorce for myself, I guess I must now accept that I am 'evil' since I engaged in an 'evil' act? But somehow, I don't think I'll be going to confession anytime soon. I also don't think I'll be needing anyones approval for the choices I make. It matters not how others view my choices, be it evil or righteous. What matters is how I feel about my choices, and the results that I experience.

Believing that divorce is ‘evil’ is the very thing that keeps abusive relationships together. This belief relies on keeping marriages intact with the glue of guilt, despite the absence of natural affection and love.
Divorce is not evil, but keeping kids chained to the abusive marriage of their parents because the parents have certain skewed beliefs about divorce, now that’s evil.

Whenever a marriage is maintained in the face of abuse, where Mum and Dad have forgotten their roles as teachers of love and subject their children to a prolonged form of infected human companionship and do nothing to end the situation, then I say to you that in this situation MARRIAGE IS EVIL!

When children are forced to witness and receive abuse and told that Mum and Dad must remain intact because it’s what God wants is to ensure the recycling of the abusive lifestyle for generations. Children will always reenact what they learn from Mum and Dad.

If to be a parent is to teach, what does a parent teach their child by staying in a home with a corrupted sense of love?

Get Divorced To Protect The Kids?

2008-12-19T06:44:00.002+11:00

Many discussions recently have inspired me to ask my readers for some specific advice!

How do you know when you should get divorced to protect the kids?

Many people refuse or delay divorce under the guise doing whats best for the kids, when 'what's best', is to actually divorce.

I am writing a report on this subject and I would love your opinion on the matter ASAP. After all, as a friend of mine put it recently, 'her opinion' is her favorite subject. I trust its yours too.

Thanks,

Corey Donaldson

Divorce Can Make You Ugly Unless...

2008-12-08T06:56:00.002+11:00

Taking care of relationships issues in a clear and decisive manner is the latest and wisest breakthrough in cosmetic procedures!

Right now I need to be very blunt. Unless you start doing something different than what you’re already doing you will experience life with a mind and body bloodshot with the dark veins of despair. Unless you do something different you will start aging yourself at an accelerated rate. Have you ever noticed what stress and worry does to peoples faces? Divorce stress is is much worse because it penetrates everything in your life. With divorce stress its not just your face that ages, its your entire body! I’ve noticed that unless divorce issues are handled decisively and steps to healing are taken that people just get UGLY, they really do. Misery warps the face and wrinkles the skin prematurely with dark shades and a heavy countenance. You need to take care of your face by doing something different than what your doing. Take steps to prevent UGLINESS right now!

What do you want?

2008-11-25T11:50:00.002+11:00

I don't have a regualr schedule for writing on this blog, but I wait for something to inspire a contribution. This time is no different.

I've had several conversations recently with people who were in turmoil about relationships they were in. There was much drama and heat over the issues being faced. As soon as I asked the question WHAT DO YOU WANT? - something started to happen. Clarity started to reveal itself.

Answering this question cuts through all the clutter and gets you to the bottom line of what you're looking for. This is important because many people are so stuck in the drama, the bottom line issue never comes up, insuring unending 'high school' arguments.

Being decisive demands that you know exactly what it is you want. If all you’re doing is going to war with what is, but never moving in a definable direction of what you want then time and circumstance will stand still, frozen in the perpetual now of indecision. So I’m asking you right now! What do you want? Get clear! Make decisions! Move in the direction of what you want!

WHAT DO I WANT?

Beware of the stories you tell!

2008-11-09T03:12:00.002+11:00

Before I get in to the subject of this post I want to share the inside story on what happened after I uploaded the previous post.

I got no less that 20 emails from people all of which were asking me to tell them the answer to the question about authenticity that was posed. People were reluctant to post thier own responses publically because not even one person felt confident enough to compose a plausable solution to the problem posed.

As a result, I have decided that the answer to this very critical issue is something I will be adding to my book in simple detail. I see that this issue really deserves some specific attention.

But for now, consider something about the stories you tell and the stories you hear from others in your personal relationships. What do the stories really tell you? What are you really saying with your stories?

In the book two rules are woth repeating here and I welcome you on insight on this topic:

Rule 163

If someone is going to hurt you, the stories of their life
will show you how they’re going to do it.

Rule 164

If you are going to be treated well by a person, the stories of their life
will show you how they’re going to do it.

Got Authenticity?

2008-10-18T20:51:00.002+11:00

A few conversations recently have inspired me to post a question for anyone to answer. I would like some wider perspectives on the answer to this question:

How can you tell the difference between thinking you are being authentic and real with yourself when you are actually being fake and phony?

The subject of Authenticity comes up in my book alot because there is a relationship between happiness and living authentically. Since major relationships are called into question when authenticity is lacking, the answer to the above question becomes even more relevant.

The best answer to the above question will be awarded two of my books, one for the writer and one as a gift to be sent anywhere you please.

Thanks Mates,

Corey Donaldson

PS Shortly I will be posting my own answer to this question.

How do you start a book about the divorce rules?

2008-09-28T19:27:00.003+10:00

I was asked this question three times this week by Australian media. I'm taking that as a cue to post the answer here. This is actually how the book starts:

Before, during or shortly after divorce is a condensed period of life where multiple lessons cluster together, but only the passing of time releases sufficient tension on the cluster for the actual lessons to be released, recognized and owned. You’ll know the lessons are coming to you when you are at peace with what you’re learning, until then; you’re too close to the situation to see anything valuable! In the meantime, I have a legion of lessons as valuable as currency to advance you.

*****

These are the last two paragraphs I am writing for this book. There is something I feel drawn to add. I shiver at the idea that you are going through anything similar to what I chose to go through. If I was to meet you and we knew each other’s story we might share a stare of knowing, of compassion, of comradeship in a shared experience, of trust that everything would be ok, and it would be. We might see each other transparently through and through except for the discernable watermark branded on by some rite of passage we have survived. I feel for you in this moment. I know you are there, feeling isolated, alone, uncertain, destabilized, and perhaps a little disappointed in yourself. But let’s be plain on something real quick; I’m not here to make you feel sorry for yourself. You don’t need me for that.

Through this common experience, we might also share a wink, a smile, a chuckle and even shrugged shoulders that shyly but deliberately confesses the purpose of challenging a marriage that has lost its authenticity. We’ve felt the flame, authorizing us to tell of the cleansing fire. We’ve descended with the lows to allow full appreciation of the graduated highs. We’ve criticized our own pathetic humanity and have come full circle in a soulful way, embracing who we are, remembering who we are. We have the insight that fragile commerce with our human selves is the road to both loving and accepting our unique condition. If you don’t have all this yet you will, you can. But now, there is more to life than our past, our best moments are in front us , there is transcendence over the opinions of others to be found, there is skin to shed and a reformed identity to be forged. And now at the last of my writing I introduce you to the beginning.

*****

Seriously, how do I start a book like this, fully aware that the reader is most likely in the eye of the storm, possibly in the numbing process of being sterilized against ever feeling again? Perhaps starting the book is not the biggest question, but finishing it purposefully, boldly, deliberately?
In the context of your current hunger inducing experience, there is tender meat in this book for you to easily digest, and there’s tough meat you’ll need to chew on for a while. I write from the perspective of knowing that most books are tired, pathetic and boring, lacking audacity or anything weighty enough to actually raise your eyebrows. Most writers who offer insight these days rely on their celebrity to carry their books through to your hands and then once you sit down and read their words you are left feeling malnourished, firewalled against all their future books. I promise you page turning insight that will challenge you. I will season your mind with reason, tickle your senses with foresight, inject your soul with an insider’s advantage, and anchor you with ironclad nuts and bolts.

Let’s get to the point!

· Some people create such perpetual drag in your life that making the final cut to the rope of attachment is the only thing left to do.

· When certain people in your life persist in robbing energy from you instead contributing energy, it’s not adventurous and noble to keep those people in your life, it’s a resignation.

· Staying in a relationship that makes you feel dead inside is to amputate the reach of a full life.

· When people repeatedly treat you like crap they have earned the right to be excommunicated from your life, to be jettisoned, exiled, evicted, banished, fired and expelled.

These may be the first reactions when existing relationships are soured, but whether they are the final and enduring answers may come down to addressing a few simple questions.

By leaving this relationship am I running from something about myself that needs to be worked on?

If I am being honest and real with myself, is the reason the relationship is not working really about the other person?

What experiences do I want in my life where staying married or getting divorced will move me closer to those experiences?

When it comes to staying married or getting divorced, how do you make the authentic choice? How do you know if you’re making the right choice? Actually, the problem with these two questions is that they are too complicated and lead to confusing dialogue. I pose them here because they are the standard questions that people ask. But, what if there was one single question to ask where the answer was immediately apparent, a question that sliced through all the clutter in your head? There is such a question. When you receive it there are only two answers, yes or no. Whichever answer is yours is the direction for you to take.

Ok, here is the question – Can I be authentic to who I am by staying in this relationship? Trust your immediate answer. While this question is sufficient to summon the immediate truth, perhaps the answer to this next question may finally drive the point home: Can your partner be authentic to who they are being in a relationship with you?

In the end you live and die by who you are or just die being someone you’re not. Living deliberately demands that you live true to your authentic self in this moment. Authenticity is a subject born by the experience of its opposite, which means stepping up to your true self and graduating from situations and relationships that have made you so well versed in the opposites of what you want. We are talking about a graduation, a commencement, an acknowledgement of wisdom gained and a readiness to move on.

Happiness in life always comes down to how authentically we are living. Tolerate phony behavior in others and your happiness will be stifled. Persist in your own phony behavior and happiness will be pursued but never found. The human soul cannot endure fake behavior from any source and still experience happiness. When you try to be someone you’re not in a relationship, it won’t work.

But in this moment you are plagued with doubt and uncertainty, feeling unauthentic right? Just know that relationship uncertainty is a fertile field where the seeds of true identity can be sown, where harvesting later comes down to being decisive now.

Being decisive demands that you know exactly what it is you want. If all you’re doing is going to war with what is, but never moving in a definable direction of what you want then time and circumstance will stand still, frozen in the perpetual now of indecision. So I’m asking you right now! What do you want? Get clear! Make decisions! Move in the direction of what you want! Until you do, you have no right to expect to feel good about what you’re doing. And that’s that.

WHAT DO YOU WANT?

Sex tells the whole story huh?

2008-09-12T16:02:00.002+10:00

I got an email from someones disgruntled wife recently. She purchased my book during a media tour in the States. Among other things she writes:

Corey, I have a problem with this sex rule you write about - The sex is a reflection of the state of your marriage. I don't understand how you can fairly assess the entire state of a marriage by only looking at the sex. With life being so busy, sometimes we go weeks or months without sex, but we have a reasonably good relationship. It seems like you are saying that if the sex is not regular then the relationship is bad. Am I missing something here?

Corey - Where do I start?

2008-09-05T08:38:00.002+10:00

Well here we go. I feel lost and confused more so is just the same. Makes no sense! You know I go through these cycles. I miss my ex wife and the life I had with that in some ways. I miss the quiet and the ability I had to just get up and go either with her or by myself. When I was married I was happy at first and then it went down hill. I struggled to make ends meet for the first part of my marriage. I tried different things. I look at the money I made the thing is we were spending more than we were making. We went through some hell together. I finally got that resolved about 5 years into our marriage I controlled all of the money I made and got it all squared up and become solid financially. In the mean time I had no balance I worked constantly. I was emotionally unfulfilled my wife thought going on vacation was going to the in laws and going on vacation the in laws always came along. One day my ex wife looked at me in the heat of an argument and said, “I could have an affair on you and your so stupid you would never know”. It was comments like that and, “don’t touch me”. I think the clincher was on the holiday of Christmas of 2006 after being in the family for 10 years my mother in law asked how my mom was and I said, “ she’s good” my mother in law could not remember my mothers name or any other family members name. That pissed me off more than I can tell you. One thing I have never really talked about except with my mother was the night before I was married there was a family dinner with her family only. There were so many things that happened as warning signs that I disregarded. Looking back those little signals were major warning signs that I completely just ignored. I can say honestly at one point I honestly thought that If I did not get married then it would never happen. Corey honestly I feel like I failed myself her all of it. It seriously bothers me. So that part of me is over legally anyway.

My current situation is a mess too, I am with her we have a little girl together. Let me give some history quickly. We were close friends we worked together at the same office for 3 years I have known her for 6 years. She is divorced and has 3 kids I have major responsibility to take care of 6 people plus her parents and her one sister. Bro its my fault it really is, I went from being financially solid to being on the verge of bankruptcy. She is latin and the mood swings and drama are abit much for me. Her ex husband does not pay child support like he is supposed to and it’s a major drain on my pocket book. I am starting to resent working this hard and not having anything to show for it. Its been a large part of contention between the two of us. She doesn’t really say much to him about it. I feel like I am being taken advantage of all the way around. Its what I created right? She has a friend that she used to date and be more than friends with and they still talk and they have to sneak around because I get pissed about the whole thing. She wont and has not come out and told me they were more than friends, and one time he was talking shit and I finally said something to him, his response to me was to check my girl. I would not do to her what she has done to me. She accuses me of talking to my ex and thinks I want that life back. I don’t want that life back Corey I miss the quiet of my life I had I miss the financial security I once enjoyed. I resent the situation I am in that I could have avoided if I would have just used my head. I am so angry at myself I cant even tell you. I believe everyone around believes I am a super nice guy and I just lay down. When I do say something people are really surprised about the reaction they get from me. Its like I am so caught up in all this crap that I haven’t gotten focused. I am tired and I am frustrated and the clock to my life just keeps ticking by. It’s the one thing that is constant and the one thing I am more aware of. I look at people around me that I work with at the office and other people I thought were mentors and now I know that that is not the case. I don’t have time to waste anymore. Two years ago I saw the end game I saw my life and the time frame. This is a very short game we are in and I am really disappointed in myself and where I currently stand. I have to get it together. I went for a long walk the other day, it seems I do my best thinking when I walk or run. Mate I don’t want to be down the path and be pathetic. My mother keeps pushing me to go back to church. Its not going to happen. I don’t even believe in it. I have to be true to me, I have been helping others get what they want and have had some success. At this point Corey I have to do what is best for me and for my child. I don’t think anyone knows about how I feel and what I think I just don’t bother saying it anymore. It seems like such a waste of time to talk about things that haven’t changed and no matter what I have said. They have not changed. One of the books I recently read said something to the affect that when you sit down with your partner and your expectations and they tell you that they can meet them and that’s not them its time to end it. Well what do you do when you are sitting down with your self and that’s how you personally feel. I would not go to a therapist because it wont work. I don’t have the energy any more to discuss it. I just want to let it go and get over it. So now that I have told you all of the above bs, you now have more information to see into my mind.